I consider myself to be an outgoing person. I am energized by social events and connections. My husband also enjoys social gatherings, but has always relished his alone time and says that it is necessary for his overall happiness and balance. In the beginning of our relationship I just couldn't understand that. Why would you want to do anything by yourself when it's so much more fun with a friend? Over the last few years I have really come to understand why he needs alone time. It is not something that some people need, but something we all truly need. As a working wife and mother I was focused on the service of others at both work and home. I loved and wanted to do it all, but some how I just kept getting more exhausted, less patient, and more frustrated with everything. How could I care about these things all so much and yet feel this level of dissatisfaction and frustration with all of it?

The Answer:  I was not taking time for myself!

My husband had known the answer for years, yet I needed to ram my head against a wall for a while before I figured it out. I needed to take time to know myself, relax, read, or just be alone. I had the desire to pour out all this wonderful love and care to my kids, husband, family, friends, and work.  I just kept coming up short. Taking time for myself is not always easy or convenient, but it is always worth it! I am the person I want to be when I give myself the time and care that I need.

Self-care is not selfish, its necessary! I encourage you all out there to take the time. It can be simple and in small amounts, but you will be shocked at the effect it has on your outlook and overall wellbeing. Take a little time each day just for you, so you can fill your cup with all the wonderful things you want to pour out into the world!

Cheers to the One Amazing You!